I never expected to be a stay-at-home dad, but here's why it works

Set aside that male ego or traditional stereotype of men at work and you could discover another side to yourself.

Published Fri, Feb 10, 2017 · 09:50 PM
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I NEVER expected to be a stay-at-home parent. Even after two years, my role still surprises me. Before my son's birth, the idea of becoming his daily caregiver seemed laughable. I had no experience caring for small children, much less an infant. No one had ever asked me to babysit their kids, except one time when my sister was in a bind. In that case, I could hear the desperation in her voice as she asked me to watch my three-year-old nephew.

The thought of staying at home with my son first crossed my mind after my wife and I concluded that I needed to resign from my job for the sake of my sanity. After her maternity leave ended and she returned to full-time work, I agreed to care for my four-month-old son while I was unemployed.

It was supposed to be a temporary arrangement. Leaving work to become his primary caregiver felt like a death blow to my male ego. I consider myself an open-minded person, but my progressive views were no match for the residue of a tradition that expects men to work outside the home.

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